Is there any place for gossip in an authentic friendship?
Gossip. If you really look, I think we can all admit that we have experienced both sides at some point in our lives. Glaring, whispering, and passing judgement on others. Maybe being the one talked about….and let’s be honest it always comes back in these cases. In the past, I admit in certain settings I would partner up with women who loved to gossip. Saying mean or hurtful statements about another….even when the ones being talked about were already at their lowest. Sad.
Real friendships are hard. Keeping them positive and balanced is also hard. It can sometimes seem like an impossible expectation to allow yourself to be vulnerable and authentic to others….to trust them. But aren’t these the friendships we deep down desire? The ones that go beyond the glass of wine and gossip? The one’s that put you at your most vulnerable, but are most rewarding and fulfilling?
I have been taking a class on finding balance and creating order from within. It has made me rethink a lot of what has occurred in my life and who I am surrounding myself with. It is probably one of the most difficult changes I have made in a while.
In this study, I came across this list of qualities a good friend exemplifies and it really hit home with me.
- They are encouraging.
- They rejoice when you are rejoicing.
- They mourn when you mourn.
- They can speak the truth to you in love.
What qualities are important to you? It is never to late to re-evaluate your list!
Always grateful!
“Friendship is when a person knows all about you and likes you anyway. “~ unknown
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